After I took a break from my full-time job back in April, I spent almost three months healing myself, struggling to cope with my emotions, going to therapy and most importantly learning the true meaning of being happy.
I took my time but it was a good few month to focus entirely on my wellbeing and mental health. I simply had to rewire myself to live a more balanced life. I’m not there yet but I’m on a journey. My gowth and learning graph is getting better everyday. I’m taking baby steps but I’m healing.
THE DEFINITION OF HAPPINESS
How would you define happiness?
Happiness is unique to every person. What happiness means to you might not mean the same thing to someone else. Getting richer or having a multi-million pounds mansion might be happiness for someone but for someone else happiness might meaning being loved, having security and overcoming depression.
Happiness can never be defined but we all need it. If you were ever asked, ‘what do you really want from life?’ Most of us would answer, ‘just being happy, being truly happy.’
Mostly, we all look for happiness in materialistic things. We definitely associate happiness with all the wrong things. We mostly strive for happiness in all the wrong places. If we have this, do this, etc. we will then be happy. For us, happiness is ‘If-Then’.
BEING HAPPY IS A DECISION
Truly, we are happy only when we decide to be happy.
Happiness is about letting go of what you thought your life was supposed to be and just embracing where you are now and how special it is in its own little way. Truly happiness is freedom. Happiness is being able to control your own life. It is not about how much you have but about enjoying the moment. Happiness is somewhere between too much and too little. It is a choice and a decision only you can make for yourself.
Happiness is the meaning and purpose of life, the whole aim and end of human existence.
Aristotle
Happiness is the aim of every human action. Our ultimate goal in life is always to gain happiness. We delay understanding the true unique meaning of happiness for us by thinking that it is something which we will derive from the outside world or it is something that will be given to us. We forget to recognise that happiness can be found within us and practising savouring can help identify that.
It means being grateful -found in gratitude. When you learn to fall in love with yourself, that is happiness. Happiness is when you are kind to yourself. Happiness is when you are kind to others. When you take care of yourself, that is happiness.
It is something you grow. Deciding to be happy and choosing happiness is within us.
FINDING HAPPINESS IN THE SMALLER THINGS IN LIFE
Happiness can truly be found in the smaller joys of life. If we choose to see it then, happiness is in the every day.
Through these last few months, I’ve grown as a person. I made a conscious effort to find my true meaning of being happy in my every day.
I found my happiness in the sunshine every morning. My hot cup of coffee every morning is my happy start to the day. Saying the rosary together with Nigel every night and praying together is my happy time. Cooking meals and spending time in the kitchen and putting a positive intention into my food every day is my happy activity. Watching the clouds from my bedroom window and seeing art in them is my happy visual. Hearing the birds chirpping in the stillness of dawn is my happy sound. Having a powerful fan to beat the heat the last few months was my happy help. Having a schedule and checking tasks off my to-do list is my happy moment every day. Journaling consistently twice a day is my happy, gratifying moment every day and I am proud of myself.
Finding happiness in these smaller things in life automatically make you feel better. By doing this you will be happy for a longer time. This will help release feel-good hormones in your body. Deciding to be happy and finding happiness in the little moments of life will release some levels of serotonin, oxytocin, dopamin and endorphines. We have to choose to do that.
I’m not saying that we do not have problems or that life isn’t tough but you can still choose happiness above it all.
THINGS TO DO FOR HAPPINESS
- Write down on small pieces of paper things that make you happy or moments or people and put those in a jar or keep them in a box. Whenever you feel low, go back to that. Keep adding to this box/jar.
- Have a ‘Happy’ playlist and listen to it whenever you are doing mundane tasks through the day.
- Have a ‘Happy’ motivational podcast list to listen to whenever you need that little push or reminder.
- Have a list of things to do which are free of cost as a ‘Being Happy Survival Guide’. Curate your own. Add to it activities like playing a board game with friends or family, going on a picnic to the nearby park, going on a nature trail, eating a good comforting meal, etc.
- Journal every day and write down every thing that helps you being happy.
- Regularly add/remove factors that help you or stop you from being happy.
- Have a morning routine or an effective night routine or both and include things that make you happy.
- Tightly HUG someone you love for at least a minute.
Always remember, happiness is a choice and only you can make that choice for yourself. Comment and let us know what makes you happy? What is your true definition of happiness?
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Sending you sparkles and showers of happiness xx